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I just pulled the internet cable out for a few days to withstand the urge to rant beyond any reason. 
And even now I'm seriously considering disabling comments for the things that I make. Because I'm so fed up with the continuous hate. And I'm so goddamn sick and tired of people that send me messages that I should just die, just because I happen to make a tutorial. (Yes, this message was literally send to me -- by PM ofcourse)

In the past weekend I hadn't so much to do. I wasn't that inspired to make art, so I decided to work on that tutorial that for which the idea had been floating inside my head for a while already. 
Like some of you know, I've been giving drawing workshops every now and then for the past 2 years. Nothing too serious. I don't even get paid for it (aside from an occasional artbook or fanart drawing). I was there because of passion. Because I liked to teach and interact with people. During those one-hour workshops, I've spoken to many people. Mostly kids, though. They were the target group of those workshops. Most of them had the same questions. But as our art-team (mangaschool) operates in the Netherlands only, I thought it would be kind to make a tutorial about those most-asked questions and put it online, so people outside the Netherlands could enjoy it as well.

When I threw the thing online, I had no idea about the impact of it all. Because, yes, even despite my marketing background I'm sometimes unaware of how fast things go.
The internet is a strange thing to me. And it might be my own lack of confidence, but it never ceases to surprise me how much response there is. Even on the journals or deviations that I don't deem 'special'.

This tutorial was the same thing.
Something that I just posted with the best intentions, like "Ahh... this might be helpful to people around here", and didn't think so much about, became my most viewed deviation overnight.
I didn't intend that. I didn't foresee it either.

The point is that with a lot of attention, there are always a bunch of haters. 
And it's that that I get sick and tired from nowadays. Because no matter what I make or write, people turn and twist my words around, in an attempt to find evil in it. To find a reason to be butt-hurt over something -- or rather; anything.
Come on, people! Where is your common sense? Since when did you forget how to read things in context? Seriously!

The tutorial would be manga bashing? Eh... I draw manga myself. Why the hell would I bash the style I draw in myself? That makes no freakin' sense!
Just because I pointed out some things that are 'wrong' in general, but are considered 'okay' in the manga style, doesn't mean I hate the style in general. It means that I want to make people aware of the mistakes of a certain style so they actually know why it sometimes looks weird. That it's not because they suck, but because the style they chose to adapt has it's flaws!
Yes, I used the word 'cheap' in regards to the way noses are drawn. But did it ever cross your mind that I meant 'cheap' in the literal sense of the word? Cheap as in; cutting production costs? Because that's what manga/anime does. It's mass production, so it needs to be cheap! 

As for the many people that tell me "you didn't cover everything". No, sure I didn't cover everything. Art students pay up to $20.000 per year for their art education. You must be an idiot to think that I cover all of those subjects for FREE, in a tutorial that took me one Saturday evening to make. Seriously, what did you expect? It's a tutorial supposed to fit in an one-hour workshop, mainly meant to point things out. To make people aware of those things, and maybe steer them in the right direction. It was never my intention to cover the full subjects.

To the art students that said "you didn't do it right". Again, you pay big bucks for your education. What the hell do your expect from a free tutorial from the internet? 
Yeah, good for you that you know better. Good for you that you can draw much better than me. As a matter of fact; I honestly wish you do, and I do this with the best intentions, since your future relies on those artistic skills. Mine doesn't. I just do this for fun. I'm a non-professional artist, and I wear that label with pride. As an art student, you might think that the whole world works like art school and that everybody should be able to put up with the harsh critique's and harsh practice schedules that are so normal around that kind of education. Well, let me tell you; it doesn't. Not everybody has the ambition of becoming a professional, and not everybody is in the position to dedicate their selves to a 60+ hours a week practice schedule. People have all kinds or reasons to do art, and some of them don't include earning money. Respect that, just like we respect you for your hard work and your awesome art.
I really do respect the people that dedicate their selves to do professional art. Because I could never do it myself, and I'm not afraid to admit so. But as much as I respect their choices in life, I wish you'd respect mine as well.

You think this is misinformation because it's not as good as the books you get in art school? Well, it's a tutorial meant to reflect my vision on the subject. Just like the many people that make tutorials about how they draw skin, fire or water. There's no absolute truth in how to do things. Because art isn't science. Yeah...there's some science in it. But for the most part, it's just a reflection of people's vision, no matter how you twist or turn it. If you think you can do better, there's nothing in the world stopping you from making a better tutorial. More tutorials will only be good for the community, because there would be more content to choose from.
If you don't like it, put it aside. This is DeviantArt; a community primarily based around hobbyist artists sharing content. This is not art school. You didn't have to pay top dollar for the content here. Nobody forces you to look at it. So either use it for your own good, or at least have the maturity to ignore it. 

If you want to critique me for what I'm doing, I'm totally fine with that. But balanced (proper) critique includes a suggestion for improvement. If it doesn't, it's just called bashing, no matter how many nice words you use to cover that up.
I know that in places like art school it's fairly normal that teachers put you and your work down. I know so, because I've studied multimedia for 4 years, and my teachers were the same. The "Either deal with our crap or you'll NEVER make it in the business" attitude, as I'd use to call it. But up until today, I believe to the ground of my heart that that kind of attitude is not the way to go. At least not unless you deliberately want to destroy people. When helping trainee's at my workplace a few years ago, someone once told me "be a leader, not a boss", meaning so much is that you rather join people and be an example, than just boss them around and only tell them what they do wrong. The key factor here is motivation. Because motivation is what keeps people going. And in that, respect is everything!!!

To the people that tell me "But you're well known, so you should be an example".
Bullshit! I'm by no means obliged to be an example for the community. It would be out of kindness and courtesy that I chose do so.
I wasn't provided the choice whether to be followed or not. I wasn't offered money to be a role model. So I don't have any obligation to be whatever the hell you want me to be.

To all the people telling me; "But you're popular, so you're supposed to receive hate". 
No, I am not!
Nobody is supposed to be getting death wishes. Nobody! Not ever!

It's already sad enough that the internet has evolved in such a way that it's considered normal to receive a lot of hate when people follow you. Because it's not, and it never should be! I've been told so many times that people just hate on me because they're jealous for whatever reason. Well, if jealousy makes you sprawl that kind of crap to someone else, then you have a serious character flaw!
It's like bashing an artist that just got a Daily Deviation, because you don't think his artwork is that good. It's pointless and it's stupid! It's not like the artist asked to be put up there. No, others made that decision for him! The same goes for watchers, faves and views on DeviantArt. You can't force people to watch (Yeah, maybe with a lot of money. But that's illegal according to DA's policy). Even though you might think the attention is undeserved, this person is apparently doing something right, hence the community likes it. 

So the next time you come across something that is 'undeservedly' liked a lot, think before you write. Don't resort to senseless hate towards the artist. Instead ask yourself "what did this artists do right?" or "what made this piece of art so accessible to people?". And if you're truly honest in that, the answer is often found in the fact that this person learned to interact with it's target group. Because that is what it takes to get out there. And no, you might not like the art. You might not belong to the target group, and you might not even "get" what is so cool about that type of art. But by observing such a thing objectively, you might actually be able to learn a thing or two about either marketing or human interaction. And you might actually be able to apply this yourself.

For those that want to reply; 
I don't feel the need to discuss the contents of the tutorial anymore. So don't go there. I won't reply and I will probably hide your comment.
This thing has gone long past this tutorial. It's about the underlying message. About that it shouldn't be normal for people to wish you death over the fact that you simply posted something. About that we should try to be open minded towards others. About that you should try to look for the good in people, instead of desperately trying to be butt-hurt over something that might not even be intended. About respecting each other and each other's choices in life. Seriously! How hard is it to at least try to be kind towards others?

For today, I'm done with this shit.
I probably won't be uploading for a while. Or at least, not until I feel like it again.
Any further pointless hateful comments will be blocked and reported to staff without further notice.
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Ubiquitous-e Featured By Owner Jul 1, 2015  Student Traditional Artist
i'm really sorry for the hate that you've been receiving, And i hope that when you do go back to uploading that people will have their shit together by then I mean really telling someone to die is going to far and i hope it gets better
ShinyZoroark1 Featured By Owner May 18, 2015  Student Writer
STFU you idiot!  HATERS. They are immature trolls that want to make your life a frickin' nightmare don't listen to the son of a pickles. There complete asses.
fdfxd2 Featured By Owner Aug 27, 2014  Professional Digital Artist
the internet is the only place which is actually free,
and absolute freedom is tied to stupidity, sorry, the internet is filled with haters and butt hurt people.

And.... This kind of stuff goes on in deviant art?
Azurewhiterose Featured By Owner Aug 11, 2014  Student Digital Artist
I understand.I can understand if someone doesn't like something but,to bash someone or say they should die is beyond me.That's really over doing it.
Iinny Featured By Owner Aug 11, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Oh wow. I can't believe this happened to you over a tut. Sigh, can't believe those trolls like to zoom around and be angry because they can't make sense of words and realize it's just advice   
REMUSJOHN Featured By Owner Jul 30, 2014  Professional Digital Artist
someone told you to just DIE!? why would they be that cruel? I never thought someone could says that, I mean, all you did was write an article to help.
DamaiMikaz Featured By Owner Jul 30, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Some people are just idots, I guess XD
REMUSJOHN Featured By Owner Dec 19, 2014  Professional Digital Artist
hm, horrible! I hope you`re okay by now~
InfinityYellowA Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I completely agree with you! My friend once got death threats for trying to critique someone's work in a very well organized non offensive manner!!! I feel bad it happened to you (it hasn't happened to me but considering what I do it will) and I think it need to stop!
fdfxd2 Featured By Owner Aug 27, 2014  Professional Digital Artist
Sounds pretty damn similar to the time when a Gamestop Reviewer got death wishes for giving GTA V a 9/10 instead of a 10/10.
InfinityYellowA Featured By Owner Aug 27, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
What the- okay 9/10...what's wrong with that?! At least it wasn't 2/10 or something like that. Though I'd really not want to see what would happen IF THAT ever occured
XeonartOmega Featured By Owner Jun 24, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
I agree with everything you said especially on the topic of true criticism. Some parts of the world tend to be quite unreasonable and seem to just want to cause unnecessary drama when the same message could be communicated in a civil rational manner.

I think you may have to try and adapt to this issue though because as far as I know, it's not going away any time soon. The world is a cruel place but what I think is seriously wrong is the fact that we tend to create an atmosphere of aggression in which we seem to encourage being rough and mean with people around us. We take the saying that the world owes us nothing and then hide behind that and use it to justify not being respectful. Well y'know what? I won't follow that bandwagon. 
Aheneus Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2014
I beg to differ on one point though: there is something between bashing and true criticism.

Personally, I'm really not an artist. Like, not at all. But sometimes I still spot something that seems or feels wrong, like « I think there is something awkward with your character's arms », or « The lighting doesn't feel natural ». And I'll just say that; but I won't tell you how to improve, because, let's face it: I've got no freaking clue on what you're supposed to do.

Call that what you wish, be it amateur criticism or whatever, but I think it's a legit kind of criticism. I think the main thing is the intent: you are either trying to help the artist, or wanting to impose your opinion and/or feeling superior.
KiwiCocktail Featured By Owner Jun 24, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
All I can say is: wow.

Do people really do that? What's wrong with the world?

I understand that people feel the need to share their opinion, and they should definitely be allowed to do that. But they should never be rude or mean about it!
I don't know about others, but all my life I've been tought that "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all".
Why do people get so blinded by their rage that they completely forget about the artist's feelings/well-being/self-esteem? Do they get some sort of enjoyment from bashing on the artist? Do they see themselves as the white knights of their interest (in your tutorial's case, the stereotypical "manga style"), defending it from everyone who does not adore it?

I don't get it.

You should not have to go through this, and I'm glad you know that it's not okay to receive comments/notes like that. I hope those people will see this journal and think about what they've done.
Take care! :huggle:
And I think your tutorial was helpful! C:
ChaosEmzie Featured By Owner Jun 24, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Wow, thank you for this.  I believe it really needed to be said. =)
Katahu Featured By Owner Jun 23, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I understand you don't want to talk about it anymore, but I just wanted to tell you for a moment that the tutorial you referenced is actually quite helpful to me. I never took art class in my entire life (no, I don't count that one elective back in middle school) but I wanted to learn how to draw. You tutorial was among the first for me to run into and it helped guide me to the general direction on where to correct my mistakes. So far my artwork has improved vastly over the years, though obviously it's not up to par with many of the professional works I see around here on DA (but I don't let that bother me). And I have that tutorial to thank for.

Anyways, now to something that ISN'T about the tutorial. The haters. I have encountered such people through all walks of life covering every topic imaginable from art to video games to science/religion and even politics. They are all the same. There is always one in the crowd who will disagree with you no matter what you say. The best course of action is to just move on and don't let there comments get to you. My lifetime experience has taught me how to deal with such people. At this point, I have the patience of a monk because of that experience.

Also, as you say, criticism is good but only up to a point. It's one thing to criticize an old artwork of mine because of bad perspective or maybe bad shadows or incorrect anatomy. But it's another to say that I suck just for the sake of saying that I suck.
Mousie-Lou Featured By Owner Jun 23, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
You, ma'am, are clearly a leader.
DamaiMikaz Featured By Owner Jun 23, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Thank you :)
HeadphoneNinja25 Featured By Owner Edited Jun 23, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Oh my goodness. I cannot even begin to describe how much I agree with you on this!
Even though I myself haven't received this type of hate (at least, not on the internet), I have seen it happening to other people before, and it is not pretty. As a matter of fact, I know a group of people here on DA who were great artists, but they ultimately met their downfall when they were victimized by this type of hate, forcing them to delete their accounts. I haven't heard from them ever since.
All I can say is that hate never ends, be it as severe as this, something more watered-down, or something even worse. This is a world full of cruel people who get off on other people's negative emotions, and by going on a hiatus and trying not to let it get to you, as well as letting your opinion be heard, you've done the best you can.
This comment might just be adding to this rant, or it may make no sense or just sound like a rant of my own, but this is my honest opinion. Don't let these fools hurt you!
RadioactiveSpine Featured By Owner Jun 6, 2014  Student Writer
I wish my life was so devoid of meaning and happiness that I could take the time and be bothered to hate on some random woman on the internet for posting a free art tutorial :/

Honestly whenever I receive hate on the internet, be it comments or gaming or whatever I've learned to just smile and chuckle to myself. I'm sorry they've grown desperate enough to give you death threats, though. No one deserves that :hug:
Maxojir Featured By Owner Jun 24, 2014  Student Writer
It's like people that create viruses, just regular "screw-you" viruses, not even the ones that steal your information but just the ones that will mess-up or crash your system. They're so devoid of entertainment in the rest of their lives that the best thing they could think to do to amuse themselves is get a five-second laugh after uploading their virus while they go "LOL, bet that's gonna &%($ somebody over! lolz". And then after that those five seconds, the amusement's over . . . then what, hackers? Then what? Spend another hour writing up another virus code to get another five-second bout of amusement? :)
LimeGreenBunny Featured By Owner Jun 24, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I so agree with you...I hate the "for the heck of it/because I'm bored" hackers more than the ones who want to steal from me.
Shinseinasenshi Featured By Owner May 15, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I'm a "non-pro artist" with a bachelors in media. 
Then again. I'm also a F5CK up, ^^ but I'm still alive.
hadenamomo Featured By Owner May 1, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I love how you say your opinion.
It literally hurts to see and hear people hating about in the Internet, and often.
I sincerely hope that many people  read this, read this thouroughly and think over how they treat others.
Remember there's tons of people out here who support you and feel touched when you post things, no matter how disgusting the comments of some people might be :)
DamaiMikaz Featured By Owner May 3, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
PrincessofEternity Featured By Owner Apr 12, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Even though i have no idea who you are (since we never saw each other face to face) I think youre very bold to be saying what you think, and i usually am very supportive of people who do that. We are your fans, and we like your art, professional or not. When i say we, i mean me and the rest of the people who want you ALIVE and know that the people who sent you death wishes are a bunch of a**holes. We are standing by you every step of the way, dont let the haters bring you down, cuz we'll just bring you back up again!
kaipur Featured By Owner Apr 12, 2014  Hobbyist Filmographer
Trolls. That's all they are. I know of some who don't actually mean what they're saying but do it so as to get a rile out of people. They say it's because they find it funny how obscene people react to it. But I always tell them that's the mentality of a criminal and they should get over themselves. Sorry you're going through so much. Maybe time away is a good thing. So as to muster the strength to deal with a world full of psychopaths. Good journey to you, sir.  We wish you well.
RenamonMega Featured By Owner Apr 11, 2014  Hobbyist Artist
Humanity is full of sin, we are forsaken in a world of oppression were only the special survive and the weakest die. If your great at something then let nobody tell you otherwise because they fail to achieve goals that they can only imagine.

We're all Forsaken, Forever alone in an oppressive world
Simba-7 Featured By Owner Apr 7, 2014  Hobbyist Photographer
"But you're popular, so you're supposed to receive hate"

Only if you're an inconsiderate, unemotional, unintelligent, and hateful pr*ck. If you're popular and are a decent person, there should be no reason for others to be an a**hole to you. This is a bullsh*t excuse to be a pr*ck.

Popularity ≠ hated on. Sorry. I've been though this in the past, and it's complete crap. Bullying is bullying, plain and simple. Bullying = Have no life and enjoys hurting others to get off.
Wynterhawke07 Featured By Owner Apr 6, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
People can be cruel for no reason at all. Trying not to take it to heart is difficult. It's a pity some just can't appreciate the help that others want to offer.
Siylasia Featured By Owner Apr 1, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
You don't deserve hate, find peace in your hiatus.
fannyfa Featured By Owner Mar 22, 2014
Hello and I'm sorry but my english is BAD, Tuve que leer el comentario con un traductor *se avergüenza* para entenderle mejor, vi el tutorial en cuestión y me parece bueno, ya que muchos Pecamos con ciertos errores en el dibujo, no lo veo ofensivo aparte se nota que lo haces en buena onda.

Con lo que te dicen de que deberías morir y otras cosas ofensivas se me hace una verdadera tontería por parte de esas o esa persona, para mí son personas que no están bien consigo mismas y al ver el éxito y buenas acciones de otros se ponen a despotricar para sentirse bien.
Pero también hay un dicho "Si no tienes alguien que te critique, algo estás haciendo mal" Entiendo que no lo haces por fama, pero te volviste popular con tu arte, y de una u otra forma llegaron personas no deseadas con comentarios malos, la verdad uno no está para aguantar esas cosas. Pero no dejes que sus acciones te dañen, demuéstrales que su patético intento de hacerte caer no va a funcionar.

Un saludo desde México *le da un plato de tacos al pastor*
Pointerofreality Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2014
Respect man...respect
(Btw, I know you aren't a man...I call everyone man or dude <.<)
Ferelwing Featured By Owner Mar 17, 2014  Professional Digital Artist
Wow... Just wow, I found your tutorial very helpful and I'm very sorry that people felt the need to attack you over it.
LittleBlackenedRaven Featured By Owner Mar 17, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
The hateful behavior is EXACTLY why I deleted my old account and started a new one without any ties. Hatemail is just hurtful, mean, and completely unessary. Don't forget all of your fan who completely support you and love you and your work. My mother always tells me, don't ever focus on the bullies. You're just giving them what they want. Just focus your attention on some of your better fans.

I don't care what other people say about the tutorial. It really helped me and all of my artistic friends improve our art. It is a really good tutorial. It may not show you how to something, instead it shows common mistakes and WHAT you can do to improve, and if those meanies can't see that, then they don't deserve you time or your energy.

One small fan,
♥ Cass
LovingRandomness Featured By Owner Mar 13, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Preach it girl! I agree with you. I don't think it's right to hate on someone for posting something meant to help beginners. I personally found your tutorial very helpful, and I wish to thank you for it. :) And I hope something like this doesn't happen again. Thank you for all your rants. I actually really enjoy them because they help me think and realize how ugly the internet can be. I hope you will feel like drawing again soon and having more journals about issues of the world. :D
Kefren4400 Featured By Owner Mar 13, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Cowards take cover in the anonimity internet provides. Your ranting will only increase unwanted attention from trolls.
Ignoring is the best course of action.

There is no reasoning with trolls. Trolls just care about the lulz. Inmature people dying for a little bit of attention. Poor basterds
tekesevent Featured By Owner Mar 13, 2014  Professional Writer
Regardless of wether or not someone likes your work you are absolutely correct in that you should NEVER receive death wishes.  It's terrible that some people's lives are so pathetic that they never formed a vocabulary nor have they the capacity to control their juvenile emotions.  There are people who were getting something from your tutorial.  For those who didn't like it, why would they sit through the whole thing when they could make a tutorial themselves?  They probably don't know how.  Lots of people appreciate what you do (I'm just one of so many).  Sorry you're experiencing hate; I've been there and it's senseless.  I hope you reported the members making comments that you should die.  They have no place here.  Be well.
Geniusofmath Featured By Owner Mar 12, 2014  Student General Artist
I know I already commented in this, but I have more to say. 
I think people just say mean things because they don't think. To them, every deviant is just a computer page, and computers aren't supposed to have feelings. They think "oh, she can say anything back to me and I don't have to read it so it doesn't matter" But it does matter! Many people don't realize that you're real and human and I am and everyone here is. They can't see you so they just ignore your feeling and say everything they want and they think nothing will happen to them. 
Sorry for ranting and being kind of repitive, I just wanted to get words down. You don't have to read them, these are just my opinions and I'm sorry if I bothered you. Have a lovely day and keep believing in yourself. You are incredible. 
Dinofreak126 Featured By Owner Mar 12, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
I've seen your art, and honestly, it's some of the best stuff I've seen. A lot better than some of the manga I've seen. And while I may be biased (I hate rude commenters; if you don't like, it, move on!), I can tell you that those who comment in such a way are either jealous or ignorant.

See, the fact that you are a non-educated non-professional artist just means that you put much more work and effort into your art than I would bet a lot of others do. You've got a natural talent, or at least a talent that is, by my standards, amazing. That's something to be treasured, not dampened or ignored.

I'm not going to stretch out this comment; it would get boring and long. Simply put, you're a great artist, and you should keep up the good work!
GigaRonin Featured By Owner Mar 12, 2014
I'm not too sure what you mean by hateful commenters. When I think of haters, I think of someone who hates popular and/or well known people or things for the sake of trying to be different. What kind of haters do you speak of exactly?
DamaiMikaz Featured By Owner Mar 13, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
People that send me messages like "you should die" or "go hang yourself"
GigaRonin Featured By Owner Mar 13, 2014
I find that hard to believe considering there is no clear reason as far as I can see as to why one would say such words you describe to you.
DamaiMikaz Featured By Owner Mar 14, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
The internet needs no clear reason, as it seems 
thedinosaurthatflies Featured By Owner Mar 30, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
it's more like people need no clear reason to do something illogical or immoral. they only have excuses for that kind of thing.

i actually really enjoyed your tutorial, and how i went, "OH I DID/DO THIS". please don't let a bunch of haters stop you from doing what you want to ^^
Geniusofmath Featured By Owner Mar 12, 2014  Student General Artist
Aww, I'm sorry. You don't deserve mean comments. 
starfire-zorua Featured By Owner Mar 12, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
...Wow. I'm so sorry that this has happened to you. Screw all those hateful things not even worthy of being called human. Well, take as much time away as you want. no one deserves to get that kind of bullshit because you posted something. You're a good person.
nya-ness Featured By Owner Mar 11, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I'm....very sorry, but maybe you should block comments. I found your tutorial very helpful, especially with the shading (:
SapphireSoul102 Featured By Owner Mar 11, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
No one deserves to be treated that way and receive hate messages. It's just not right. I'm sorry you had to deal with that =(
Everyone should respect one another and respect what others have to say. I've dealt with haters because of the ships I like, and you can't let them get you down. Hang in there and ignore all the ignorant haters. They shouldn't be on the internet at all.

Sorry for also ranting but I feel strongly about this problem....
NemesisGreatrex Featured By Owner Mar 11, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist

I accidentally stumbled on a link to this post, and reading it struck a nerve in me to the point that I had to say something, even though I do not know you or your work:


I've been in Second Life since late December of 2006 and I have had the same sort of thing happen in there... say or do something with the best of intentions, and for no sensible reason at all I get hate-stormed.

So I am very familiar with how awful it feels when it happens.  And I know that nothing ANYONE says can make that sort of hurt any better, it has to heal over and fade on its own timetable, when YOU are over it.

And it turns out that there IS no "sensible" reason - it happens because of a few things that happen seperately or in combination... such as stupidity, ignorance, intolerance, simple misunderstanding, vindictiveness, and more... all having one thing in common:  These things are the *worst* aspects of our common humanity, and despite being pretty unrepresentative of MOST of us, MOST of the time... well... *shrug* they are always out there and always willing to pounce.

One thing I always try to keep in mind on such occasions is a quote (attributed to Theodor Seuss Geisel aka "Dr. Seuss", although it's disputed if he was the originator of the saying) that is VERY TRUE and VERY RELEVANT and GOOD TO PONDER now and then: "Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind"

Please read that again and let it sink all of its subtle twisty goodness into your heart!


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