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This video has been a hype on the internet over the past view days;



It's not the first time a similar message is send, and it's probably not the last time.
Over the years, I've seen many of those messages seen popping up on (how ironically) social media. And while the intention is good, I think the whole "quit social media" thing in general is a bit too one-sided. They don't realize that social media isn't just something we can stop over a day. It has become a collective mindset. A communication standard. Like phone calls and letters used to be our main form of communication in the 90's, social media now has become our standard for communication.

The matter is the same. It's just the medium that shifted.

I didn't have a Facebook account until late 2011, and I didn't have a smartphone until early 2012 (and that was only because my boss got me a new phone, and it happened to be smart). Yes, I was late. The reason for that? I absolutely hated the smartphone generation! 

Not long before that, I went to a meeting of a local internet forum. It was the first time since (I think) 5 years there was a meeting. The earlier meetings of the community were always a lot of fun. Not that we did something special. Just hanging out, checking out shops, and talking. It was nevertheless a lot of fun. The new meeting, however, wasn't anywhere near that fun. I can remember going there with a good friend of mine. He, just like me, didn't have a smartphone, and we were the only 2 people that actually talked to each other. The others just kept staring at their phones and laughed about all kind of things that happened online and we didn't get at all. I can still remember us sitting at a bar, having a drink, when 2 people that sat NEXT TO EACH OTHER where laughing about the fact that they just commented on each other's Twitter. Not even 10 face-palms could make up for that... Needless to say; we left soon after that.


When I first got Facebook, I was a bit hesitant on what to post there. I had been on the internet for long, yet I never liked sharing personal details with people. But even despite I didn't share that much, social media was a great experience for me. It has opened up my world entirely!

As a shy person, I always hated making phone calls. I didn't like "just going" to a persons house and tell them I wanted to do something. I felt like forcing myself up to people, and I didn't like that. Let alone that keeping contact with those that studied in another city or abroad was really hard, because of the huge costs of phone calls or traveling. Social media, in that regard, was the perfect solution for me. Because now, all of a sudden, I could stay updated of what was happening in the lives of friends and family that didn't live around the corner. I could send them a message and they could answer at any given time they want -- regardless of timezone. It made communication a bit more open-ended. And that worked very well for me.
As an introverted person, I don't always feel like answering people. Now I can just take things at my own pace. 

What about the people that get depressed over Facebook, you'd ask me? Well, everything has it's downsides. Of course people try to sketch a perfect picture of them selves. We leave out the negative. We don't post statuses when feeling miserable, because we don't want all of our friends to know when we have a bad day. Then again; did we go to see friends on bad days? I happen to remember that there were days in life, far before social media, that I didn't feel like going out at all. And that I just stayed at home because I felt like shit.
The mistake that many people make is that they see social media profiles as a realistic view on people's life. It isn't. It's more like a summary of the best experiences this person has had over the past time. And if you take that into consideration, social media isn't all that depressing. 

Before you think I'm preaching social media; I'm not. There certainly are aspects of social media that I don't like at all. One of those things is that nowadays all discussions are so centered about the "me", rather than about a neutral subject (like it used to be, in the early days of the internet forums). That people blabber about totally useless things (like going to the bathroom -- who the f*ck cares???), or that people use it as a medium to bully and threaten others. And... of course there's that facepalm-worthy situation in which people that are sitting less than a meter apart prefer to communicate over Twitter instead of actually opening their mouths and saying something.

But like with everything; moderation is the key.
Everything that is overdone gets annoying, and social media is no exception in that.


Over the past years, I've seen people on both sides of the spectrum. From the people that were active on 10+ social media sites, posted every meal on Instagram, and almost seemed fused with their phone. To the people that hated social media and didn't want to have anything to do with it. You know... both extreme's aren't good. The first group tends to get ignored because they spend so much time telling how awesome their life is on social media, that they don't have time to actually live. The second group is basically excluded from information, even though this isn't always done on purpose. I can remember that we had one guy in our group of friends that was basically anti social media. When we arranged a meeting in a Facebook group chat, one always had to remind us to invite person-X as well because he didn't have Facebook. And sometimes... we just forgot. 

There are many people that quit social media for a while, just to experience what would happen. Experiences differ from person to person, but are all interesting to read. If you're curious to know how your life would look without it, I encourage you to just try quitting it for a week or two and see what happens.
I've done so too and I can assure you; It won't kill you. It will make you think.


Every new technology and every new means of communication comes with pro's and con's. And every new development comes many people that oppose it because they say "things used to be better". Sure, you're allowed to reflect upon that. I would only encourage that. But the point is that it's a continuous movement that you aren't gonna stop, no matter how much you fight against it. Instead of saying how things used to be better, try to get comfortable with how things are now. Make the best out of it!
Not everything is as bad as it seems. Sometimes you just need to get used to things...
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Kalietha Featured By Owner Jul 14, 2014  Student Digital Artist
I think the key is the same as with anything else - moderation. Too much of ANYTHING is bad, including water and oxygen. The problem isn't the media; it's a generation that doesn't know how to do anything in any way but the extremes. All sugar or no sugar; all organic or no organic; alcohol every day or not at all; love to read or hate it. The middle ground's been forgotten, and so everything's become a battle zone.
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fdfxd2 Featured By Owner Aug 27, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
US VS THEM
WHICH SIDE ARE YOU ON!

TRAITOR!
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Aheneus Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2014
That's… not so true. Nobody has forgotten about the middle ground. That doesn't really make any sense. Nobody eats only sugary things. Very few people have such opinions on organic. The problem is that people at the extreme ends of the spectrum are usually the loudest. When you are in the middle, you tend to adopt a lower profile.

Simple test: ask a groupe (like, I don't know, ≈10 people I'd say) what they think about organic. In my experience, you'll have like 2-4 people monopolizing the attention, expressing their strong opinion, etc. Those 2-4 people will probably represent like 80% (well, I didn't measure, but you get the idea) of the speaking time. So, at the end, as an observer, you'll feel that people only either loooove organic, or hate it. But in reality, you'll have 2 people loving it, 2 people hating it, and 6 with an intermediary opinion.

Please see tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php…, they explain it much better than I do :)
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Kalietha Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2014  Student Digital Artist
Hmm. That does make sense. THough in my case it's probably more that I tend to hang around people with strong opinions ^_^() Tends to give me a skewed perspective.
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Aheneus Featured By Owner Jul 24, 2014
Yeah, sure, that's also a possibility :D
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BloodyPonyMon Featured By Owner Jun 21, 2014
This is the only social network I have. I am a member of a Pocket Frogs forum, though ;3
Facebook is useless to me. I pick up the landline, (don't have a cellphone), and call who ever I need to talk to. I'm 17 and haven't once been pestered to sign up for Facebook. There are 3 friends I call on a regular basis, all of which use Facebook, texting, and shit, and they have no problem talking to me to arrange some time to hang out. And when we hang out, no one stares at their phone, or has an online conversation with the person next to them...Can't believe people do that.
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DamaiMikaz Featured By Owner Jun 22, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
It does happen, though. 
It happens a lot
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DarkRukia91 Featured By Owner Jun 11, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
I quit facebook- from my exp you don't really need it(unless for family or something). If people are on their phones 24/7 then they can text or call you. 
Reason why I perm quit FB, it's because friends of my friends...it seems like every time I commented (and respectfully, I do watch what I say) I always got someone being an asshole and thats my friends friend, this would happen occasionally with different friends when I commented on their posts. What boggles me is when I defend myself (I wouldnt even curse them out or be rude about it, I would calmly explain myself) and yet I get in trouble, instead of the asshole friend of theirs, or my friends would give them an excuse. So I quit FB, if I cant have a good conversation without their friend being ignorant and they get an excuse then why should I even be on there? Not only that, back then no one would invite me to hang with them even though I commented about me going and to tell me when the date is. So I just quit. I'm not totally against social media but for some reason people have been turning into jerks form being on it a lot (it's what I noticed and exp anyway)  
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DarkRukia91 Featured By Owner Jun 11, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
Also, I would like to put this here..this is very sad(and sickening)...I think people need to balance themselves. Its fine to be on your phone but stop and look up from time to time, its a lesson to learn. 

www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/10…
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cecegrace Featured By Owner Jun 2, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
YES.
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luheca Featured By Owner May 20, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Real como la vida!
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icedrawolf Featured By Owner May 11, 2014  Student Filmographer
I use social media sites such as DA and Facebook, but I hardly ever post anything myself... I tend to read other people's stuff.
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LuckyMangaka Featured By Owner May 11, 2014  Student General Artist
I have watched social media flourish from the early 2000's.
I have never had social media and the closest thing to it I have ever gotten would be here, email or skype. 
I use my phone to call people and talk to people. 
On the other hand I see you lot, wandering oblivious to the surrounding realm known as reality, staring at your phones and tablets. Moaning how bad it is, moaning how many likes you got. 
Its seems silly to me personally, because you all look so distant for all you are telling me how wonderful it all is.
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glitter8pony Featured By Owner May 8, 2014  Hobbyist Artist
Unfortunately, no matter how hard I try to make friends offline (And trust me, I try really hard), nobody will talk to me. The internet is the only place where it's possible for me to make friends. And the few friends I do really know, I don't ever get to see them. My only contact with them is on the computer nowadays. I wish this was a problem easily fixed.
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DamaiMikaz Featured By Owner May 18, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I think you're just not meeting the right kind of people.
As an artist, I have a hard time blending in with the mainstream as well. After all; I don't like going out and such. I made a lot of friends at anime conventions and art workshops, though :)
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glitter8pony Featured By Owner May 19, 2014  Hobbyist Artist
Ya. I think my Broadway obsession is one of the reasons why it's so hard for me to make friends. Especially since I hate all those popular singers and bands that everyone else adores. You know, Taylor Swift, Justin Bieber, One Direction, Demi Lovato, all those pop stars.  All I listen to nowadays is Broadway and Christian radio (KLove, Air1). It's not easy liking different things then everyone else. 
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DamaiMikaz Featured By Owner May 19, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
The key is not to hate on things.
By hating on things, you'll automatically repel people that like it, because they feel attacked. If you just don't care, instead of hating. And focus on common interests, instead of differences... it's a lot easier to blend in.
A lot of people don't listen to the same music as I do, but I can get along with them pretty well :)
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glitter8pony Featured By Owner May 19, 2014  Hobbyist Artist
It's not like I go around telling everyone I hate the people they like. All I'll say is that I don't really like a specific singer. But most of the time, I just stay quiet about that stuff. It's very rare when I'll speak up about not liking something.
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DamaiMikaz Featured By Owner May 20, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
But... come on... there are other things in the world people can interested in than music.
Yeah... I admit music is important, as it often reflects personality (people that like rap are different than people that like metal) but there's more to people than their music preference.
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glitter8pony Featured By Owner May 20, 2014  Hobbyist Artist
True. 
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mlpNumberCrunch Featured By Owner May 8, 2014
I will admit, I do have a problem with balancing it out. But that's mainly due to my social anxiety. I'm always worried people will find me weird because of what I like. But on the internet, there's a zillion other people who share common interests.
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DamaiMikaz Featured By Owner May 18, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I used to think like that too... but if you have some pride in what you like... people will not think it's weird. They will just think of you as non-mainstream.
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YiskaXIII Featured By Owner May 8, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Hm this reminds me of that time I went to Disneyland and I saw a girl texting while walking. I hope she was at least setting up her phone for a picture....
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RideordieStudio Featured By Owner May 8, 2014
Hello! Thank you for the llama! I'm going on my fourth year in college and still do not have a smartphone (phone bill of $8 a month is great), but will accept using one when necessary for work. I agree on moderation in everything. I have an issue with social media and people being fused with their phones, but yes, it's something we can't stop. I feel like I can hardly relate to anyone, much less keep up a normal conversation because it's changed the thought process of many people. On top of that, the internet has blown up with content (posts, comments, etc.) created by completely egotistical and ignorant people to a degree that's almost unbelievable. My own mom is sucked into portraying the most perfect life on her Facebook that she happens to be on almost all the time now. She's completely changed from the level-headed, logical person she used to be and it's frustrating.
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BustUpBots Featured By Owner May 8, 2014  Hobbyist
had to stop watching it.
made me too angry.
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YiskaXIII Featured By Owner May 8, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
why~? Meow :3 
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BustUpBots Featured By Owner May 10, 2014  Hobbyist
emotions got better of me. its a needless argument. internet is not bad. blaming wrong ploblem.
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YiskaXIII Featured By Owner May 10, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
if you say so
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BustUpBots Featured By Owner May 10, 2014  Hobbyist
mmm. nah, not if i say so.
kinda the opposite.
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YiskaXIII Featured By Owner May 10, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
alrighty then I am a dummy! 
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MetallicGirl Featured By Owner May 8, 2014  Professional Writer
I agree with you. I mean, I'm not a fan of social media myself, but I can see why other people would like it. It's just another way for friends to connect with each other.
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DreamStateVoice-Xue Featured By Owner May 7, 2014  Student Writer
Using social media to tell people to get off social media.
The video itself is an irony.
But we all get the point of it anyway xD
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DamaiMikaz Featured By Owner May 18, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Yeah... I found it rather ironic that I saw the video on facebook as well XD
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Whetsit-Tuya Featured By Owner May 8, 2014  Student Filmographer
That's likes AdBlock using ads to get people to donate to them
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DreamStateVoice-Xue Featured By Owner May 8, 2014  Student Writer
Yeah! Just like that.
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cmwriteart Featured By Owner May 7, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Technology is good, only if used wisely.

Problems I see Frequently on the Internet:

1. We don't talk to people anymore. If we see someone we don't like, we just tune out and take out our phones.
2. We don't think twice when we post stuff. Who knows if it will offend anyone?
3. When we talk to people online, we aren't cautious or careful. There are online predators everywhere!
4. We try to get views by hurting ourselves or others while filming a vine. It's not even funny at all.
5. We can't survive without our phones, tablets, or computers. In fact, it's almost like a 'drug'.
6. Taking selfies just to get attention.

What makes me sick the most is when people post stuff like, "Like if you are against cancer," or "1 Like equals 1 prayer." Seriously, if you are against cancer or something, do something about it! Don't just sit there liking that picture because it is almost equal to do nothing! Those people who posted it just want likes.
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DamaiMikaz Featured By Owner May 19, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
1. We ignored people we didn't like far before the internet era.
2. People nowadays are offended by everything. Even something like wishing people a 'merry christmas' could offend those that aren't christian. It's insane.
3. So where there predictors on the street before the internet era. Nothing changed. The medium just shifted.
4. People did stupid things for appreciation even before the internet. Nothing to worry about. It's just natural selection at it's finest.
5. Go 30 years back in time. I doubt how many of those people would've survived when put into the wilderness without electricity of water. Yes, we've been estranged from nature. It's been so for years already. 
6. Back then people stripped for attention in public places as well. And even then it annoyed the fuck out of people.

Not much changed. Mediums just shifted.
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cmwriteart Featured By Owner May 20, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Now that I think about it, it is true.
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cmwriteart Featured By Owner May 9, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I take 1 and 5 back. I realize it isn't relevant to what I'm talking about.

I'll admit I'm addicted to the internet, which is why I tend to avoid it if I'm not done with school work.
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Whetsit-Tuya Featured By Owner May 8, 2014  Student Filmographer
Only 6 is a problem, you're whining about 1-5, that's like saying "Problems I see Frequently with food: 1. We all eat too much meat!"
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MetallicGirl Featured By Owner May 8, 2014  Professional Writer
I don't care about 1 or 5...okay with those. My mom said I'm addicted to my laptop and she's probably right, but I don't care. The others, though, I agree that they are a problem. I don't care if other people use social media, but what I don't like is when people take stupid pictures of themselves and post them online, plus when they post irrelevant things like "Eating yummy food!" or "Just bought a new shirt!" You should save that for "I just got married!" or "I just had a baby!" or "I just graduated from college/high school!" You know, important stuff. 
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Kat-Houck Featured By Owner May 7, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Im one of those people who doesn't use social media alot and I agree with some if what your saying. People should experience life with out social media. It changes once u realize. Whenever I get the chance to, I go outside and explore a forest, or swing, go for a run or even ride my bike. Im not athletic but I enjoy the outdoors.
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OnDarkWings Featured By Owner May 7, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I just realized I didn't post before so I am doing it now :D

I have to say I agree with you 100%
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Orion159 Featured By Owner May 7, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
That pretty much sums up my thought-process when reacting to the video.

Only other thing I think is worth mentioning is that the story he used in the second half to highlight what we could be missing was completely based on chance. You could just as easily say that two blocks down the street, the man bumped into a women because neither one looked up from their phone, and the ensuing relationship was twenty times better than the other. The moral of the story is invalidated by how the story is brought about in the first place.

Aside from the message, I definitely think the language used was very well done. Props to the poet!
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DamaiMikaz Featured By Owner May 19, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Yes... you could be missing out meeting the love of your life because you're looking at your phone.
But they forget you could also meet the love of your life on the internet. It happens a lot nowadays.
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Orion159 Featured By Owner May 19, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Especially if you have to listen to dating website commercials every 3 minutes on hulu!
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xSakuraChu Featured By Owner May 7, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
See, that's also how I felt after seeing that video yesterday. Social media has helped me meet friends from Canada, Portugal, Italy, and other places that I just can't travel to. Everything can be enjoyed in moderation, social media being no exception to this. 
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LadyElasa Featured By Owner May 7, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I agree. I'm also an introvert,. I've often connected with people far faster by instant messaging them when I don't have the opportunity to be with that person because I'm better with typing words sometimes than saying them which comes from my writer side. Many of my good friends live too far for me to visit them on a regular basis, but when I do see them I become a Facebook recluse so I can spend as much time with them as possible. For me, Facebook has allowed me to have relationships before that I couldn't in the days of phone calls and letters. It has been more of a blessing than a curse on my part. I've been forced into social situations where I tried to connect with others but they ended up ignoring me, but I still had my true friends just an IM away. Social media has helped me with loneliness more than fan it. I think there are cons but the pros are very evident too. Thank you for sharing.
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